A Tale of Two Women ....Part 1

Two very different women... who form a HUGE part of my life .. and a large part of the blessings i count on when i send a thank u to the universe.... Here goes -Part 1 .

Anuradha aka Anu aka Charsi aka "Noo"- i met her in IMT in 1994..... she and i are chalk and cheese... at 5'3" with a tom boyish haircut ,shorts and t shirt sans make up look while i at 5'11" was in my girly silver jewellery long hair ethnic phase. it was not just physical but we differed in so many ways - she was(And still is)  sweet and patient and non judgemental,soft spoken (with a very strong hidden temper) while i was (and remain!) outspoken,rude and tempestuous. We bonded over our ragging sessions - she accepted those silly activities with a patient smile while i sulked and made faces but somehow we connected . For 2 years we were inseperable..... She was nicknamed Charsi - for her very dopey look ;-) and since we were always together - i became ganjeri - ganja .. Charas and Ganja...what a wonderful 2 years -has to count amongst the best years of my life... we shared so much late night assignments, drinking sessions,bitching sessions,crushes,relationships - it was like being on another planet...then placements and her marriage -she moved to Mumbai and i to Bangalore.we hardly ever called but when we both moved back to Delhi it was seamless -it is as if we werent ever apart .Stay overs at her place - meeting in CP after work  - it was endless.
Then cities changed again - i moved back to Bangalore and we again went into that no communication mode - till one day she called...she had moved out , her marriage was falling apart. I took leave and went to Delhi - i was angry and upset and worried - why had she not told me,is she OK ?? She was still sweet and patient and strong,....and quiet. I spent time with her , came back to Bangalore and maintained our calls. She moved on to Mumbai and as time healed her wounds we went back to our silent relationship. Yes we caught up when ever i was in Mumbai we always met and conversations seemed to flow ... then she remarried and moved to Singapore. We always sent an email /sms to establish that we had each others contact details but never used them .I am not am imaginative writer and i cant explain but somehow it is like this bottle of water that i always place on my bedside table before i sleep - i have hardly ever use that bottle  but i cant sleep without it ....and that is how it was we both know where to reach each other but hardly  ever do ...And again there was quiet ....she and i did sms each other once in a while but hardly ever heard back from each other .... One day - i needed some cash to pay for the flat i was buying - i smsed her -" need 2 lakhs will return in 6 mnths time - slightly urgent." within a second the response came - "can manage 1.5 will that do ?" I said "Yes , will pukka return in Jan". "send me your a'ct number" In ten minutes i had a confirmation that the money had been transferred.She never even asked me what it was for and why ..and it took 4 years for me to pay it back to her - not because i did not have the money but she would ignore all my smses and mails about where to send the money /cheque!! Till she came to Mumbai last month when i finally handed over the cheque to her..needless to say we spent a fabulous evening together and had a blast.
 To me these 2 incidences are the sum of my relationship with Anu.  Anu and I are not good at long distance relationships- but we are VERY GOOD at our friendship....we dont need the weekly,monthly calls to reiterate who we are ...we JUST are ...best of friends.I will take a flight to the end of the world for her and so will she. We may not talk but our conversations are seamless because we are always in touch wth each other  .....A lot of my friends wonder and cant understand how months can go by when we havent spoken and yet we are best of friends - how can that be .. a batchmate once commmented - what a selfish relationship u have ,only reach out when u need some help.to him and to others i say F$%% Off...it is not selfish it is SELFESS .How many people can go to bed at night knowing that there is one person who is NOT your spouse,sibling,child or parent who will do anything for you and yet never ask for something in return -I know 2 people who can Anu and ME and for me that is enough....